A personal end of year message from Dr. Dane
As 2021 comes to a close and we start 2022, I wanted to write a personal message to say THANK YOU. It's easy to get caught up in everything that is broken or wrong with our world and our lives right now. Seeing the negative is easy; just look around, jump on social media, watch the news, or talk to your friends and family. It's all around us and we tend to attract and become exactly what we think about the most, which is a product of what we see and hear all the time. Lives have been lost and people we know, some close to us, have died. That IS sad and depressing. However, as they say, "time marches on" and I don't know about you, but I want to live in a world that when I die, my life MEANT something and I lived it completely. It's hard to live fully when you are "stuck" in fear, despair, and depression. You can't experience joy NOW when you are stuck in fear NOW. It's like trying to see the road ahead with a muddy windshield and no windshield wipers, you're going to crash.
We can't lose sight of the fact that we have to go on and fight the GOOD fight. Life and this virus don't play favorites. It just does what it does. I often think "why do bad things happen to good people"? The answer is bad things happen to everyone and sometimes really bad things happen to certain people and it's not fair. But life isn't fair and it will never be. It wasn't set up that way when the "rules of life" were written. In fact, I think the better we get at learning to successfully navigate obstacles and hardships, the more we advance on the gameboard. The better we get at living life, the more we appreciate it because we know tomorrow is promised to no one so we better "get to work".
I chose to wake up every day and SEE the good, see what's right in my life. Some days we have to look really hard because of the way I feel that day, but the good is always there. I believe the thing we should be most thankful for is the people in our lives, the ones that make life worth living. The ones who love us and the ones who give our life meaning. Look around? Who loves you and whom do you love?
I wanted to write this message to say "Thank You". I get to wake up each day and I can tell you at 53, even amidst the chaos and fear, I'm happier and more at peace than I've ever been. I LOVE life and I love all the people in my life. It brings me joy to see people smile, to see patients get well and not struggle, to see kids growing up healthy, to radiate happiest to someone having a bad day, to love my wife and children with all that I have. I know my own personal happiness comes from WHO I want to be as a person. As we age, I believe we become wiser. We learn from our mistakes and we appreciate the struggles that have made us who we are. We hopefully use that wisdom to do GOOD in the world because right now the world needs it.
Being healthy isn't just a physical thing, it's a mental thing, and it's an emotional thing as well. Being healthy takes conscious effort, it takes daily deposits into the mental bank account and it takes repetition. So, start seeing the good, being the good, radiating the good, and soaking up the good in your life. If you are reading this and you have been a patient, a friend, or an integral part of my life, THANK YOU for making my life a tremendous JOY to live. Stop LOOKING for joy and let it find you because if you lived a life of service helping others find THEIR joy, you won't have to search for it, it will FIND YOU like it's found me.
Yours in Great Health,