Show Me Your Calendar and I will Predict Your Future
One of the best predictors of success with your health, your relationships, your finances, and your happiness, is where you spend your time and who you are spending that time with. In consulting and coaching with hundreds of patients and Chiropractors over the years, I tell them the main motto that I try to live my life by is "who you are speaks so loud that I can't hear what you say". What this means is that it's not what you say that matters but what you DO. We know that actions speak louder than words but we don't always take the actions necessary to produce the outcomes we want. I know personally that I come up short many times in trying to live by the creed of "who you are speaks so loud I can't hear what you say".
However, I think about it often. I meditate on it often. I pray about it often. Who do I want to be? Who do I want to be as a husband, as a Chiropractor, as a father, as a friend, as a coach, as a son? My life has many different roles and so does yours. I didn't always think intently about who was showing up to these roles and responsibilities. Looking back at my life in my 20's and 30's, I wasn't always proud of who showed up and how he behaved. That's because I didn't learn that who you are is simply a byproduct of what you do, and what you do is a byproduct of your environment. In other words, the people you hang out with, the books you read, the places you spend your time, etc. That's why I say "show me your calendar and I'll predict your future". Where you spend your time is what's important to you. But where you spend your time today will create or destroy your future tomorrow.
People can put their so-called best foot forward, say all the right things, post amazing things on Facebook but at the end of the day, that means very little. It's what you do that matters and sometimes doing the right thing is hard and that's why it's easier to say it than do it. Think about exercise, or saving money, or writing that note to your spouse to tell them how much you love them, or prepping that healthy meal for your dinner tonight. I could go on and on with things that we know we should do but don't do. These things require time, attention, and energy. It's so much easier to think you're going to do them than to actually get them done. We can't do it all but we can do the important things. How? By prioritizing them in our calendar and getting them scheduled. This is what I like about making lists and reminders. Don't think it, ink it. Write down the important things each week and then put them in your calendar.
Another motto that I live my life by is "that which gets scheduled, gets done". If it's not in my calendar, it's probably not going to happen. There are 168 hours in a week and if you sleep 50-60 hours a week like me, that leaves about 108-118 waking hours per week to get things done. That's NOT a lot of time each week. How you use this time and/or how you squander this time will determine how successful you are in life. Stephen Covey said, "Things that matter most should never be at the mercy of things that matter least". So THINK about the things that matter most and the time you have each week and schedule that time accordingly. Ask yourself what matters most in my life and then look at your calendar and make sure you are scheduling time with those things.
Also, remember that YOU matter most. You take YOU to every relationship and responsibility in your life. So make sure you are investing time in YOU. When you are healthy, energetic, optimistic, and vibrant, you take that energy into your life. Albert Einstein said that energy is not created or destroyed, it's just transferred in form. So, power up and spread that energy to the things that matter. This will make a huge difference in your happiness and fulfillment. When you exercise, meditate, pray, take your supplements, get a good night's sleep, get adjusted, get a massage, or anything else you do to "power up", you are "RTR" (ready to roll) for the week.
This week, look at where you spend your time, and where you are spending your money for that matter which is also a reflection of what's important to you. See if any "adjustments" need to be made. Your happiness in life depends on it!